The problem: you don’t know where to meet women you actually want to date, so you’re ending up at all the wrong places. The solution: (1) figure out what kind of women you want to meet, and (2) go to the places where they hang out.
Is this approach too simplistic? Too vague? Keep reading and we’ll clear everything up for you as we explain the best places to meet women for both short and long-term relationships.
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Now, before you can meet the right woman, you first need to know who it is you’re looking for…
Figure Out What Kind Of Woman You Want To Meet
Everyone’s in the dating world for one of two reasons: to find a partner to have a long-term and serious relationship with or to find someone for a hook-up and/or or short-term relationship or fling.
Recent research published in the American Sociological Review suggests the kind of relationship you want will dictate where you should go to meet women. So, the first order of business is to figure out what kind of relationship you want, and then plot your social route around this choice.
If You’re Looking For A Serious, Long-term Relationship
If you’re looking for a woman who can become your girlfriend, watch this video presentation for the 3 steps you MUST take to make that happen. The American Sociological Review reveals that meeting women during your daily routine increases the chances of finding someone with similar interests to yours. By meeting women at these places, you also create deeper connections over your shared interests.
Should you be lucky enough to end up with someone from one of these places, research shows these relationships tend to be happier, more satisfying, and generally longer than the average relationship. If meeting women isn’t the problem, but getting them to say “yes” to you is, use these 9 words in the first 3 minutes to attract the girl you want, anywhere, anytime.
Now, let’s continue and explore some of the best places to meet women who share your interests:
From cooking to photography, taking classes not only expands your skills and makes you more interesting, it is also a prime opportunity to meet women. Taking a class automatically fosters a commonality with your fellow students.
These commonalities give you the opportunity to meet women by striking up a conversation about something related to the class and then continuing the conversation over coffee or dinner.
Make sure you take classes you’re genuinely interested in. This ensures you can make and maintain quality conversations around the topic that connects you.
The next time you visit your favorite bookstore, keep an eye out for attractive women perusing your favorite shelves. Like classes, meeting women who favor your preferred sections in bookstores also increase the likelihood of having something in common with these women.
The best thing about bookstores these days is they’re usually integrated with a cafe or even a music section. When you get into a good conversation with a woman over the books you love, you can naturally steer the conversation to, “Wait, you’ve never heard of Musician X?” Then, lead her to the music section. Or you can say you’re not ready to stop talking with her and ask her if she’d like to grab a drink or quick bite to eat at the bookstore cafe?
Whether you’re part of the team playing or just there to cheer on your favorite team, sports events are great places to meet women with whom you have a lot in common.
If you’re there to watch the game, bring a friend and sit next to a couple of women you’d love to meet. AskMen.com suggests asking these women for their opinion on a “debate” you’re having with your friend about the game, the players, or even the odds of the team at the end of the season.
They even suggest switching teams if it makes you look more favorable in the eyes of the woman you are pursuing, but this tactic usually isn’t necessary, and it’s probably better to stay completely true to yourself. Bond over your love of the game, and you’ll have a relationship for life.
If you’re there to play the game with a community co-ed team, sociologists say your chances of getting closer to a woman you’re interested grows because of something called “situational generalization.” According to this theory, when people work towards a common goal, they’re more likely to grow closer.
A word of caution: this isn’t your high school varsity. Aside from being a good athlete, what counts more is being a good sport. Complex.com recommends letting the woman you’re trying to impress see you as a fun guy who just wants to have a good time.
Lose gracefully and win graciously. At the end of the day, what matters are the numbers in your phone and not the one on the scoreboard.
The last place a woman probably thinks of meeting an interesting guy is the vegetable aisle. However, this element of surprise can actually work for you if executed well.
When you see a woman you’re interested in, ask her a question about a food item on the aisle. For example, if you’re in the pasta aisle, pick up a sauce or a type of pasta and ask her if she has any recommendations on how to cook it. Ask her if she’s ever tried it and if it’s any good.
If you’re in the meat section, ask her about the cut of beef she’s getting and how she’s going to cook it. The key here is to sound genuinely interested and curious without coming off as a creep who is cruising the fruit section for women.
If you’re looking for like-minded women who are both driven and ambitious, another great place is at an event for your favorite non-profit. These events are usually infused with passion and emotion, making them a ripe opportunity to discuss related issues with a fellow concerned citizen.
Go to a poetry reading and bond over the disturbingly high rate of homelessness in your city. Attend a lecture on the need for government supported community shared agriculture, and share your passion for accessible whole foods with a hot woman.
Whatever function you decide to attend, make sure you know enough about the cause and its related issues to carry on an engaging conversation.
These settings are similar to socio-political events but without the highly charged atmosphere, and they’re fun! Women prize kindness and altruism in men, so volunteering is a great way to create an initial attraction almost instantly.
If You’re Looking For A Hook-up Or A Short-term Relationship
Now if you’re in the market for a hot and heavy hook-up or a quick, no-strings-attached fling, then the best place for you to meet women is at bars or clubs. According to Psychology Today, the reason for this is that women who go to these places are likely there for hook-ups or flings as well!
These venues are also more conducive to the kinds of interactions necessary to build sexual attraction: getting noticed, aggressive flirting, social sexual touching, bold pick-up attempts, and directly communicating your intentions. Try to do any of these things at a Whole Foods and you’ll probably be banned from the store.
What About Online Dating?
Due to the highly customized “pick and choose” dating experience online dating provides, you can actually meet women here no matter what your dating goals are.
If you’re looking for long-term relationships, online dating gives you the opportunity to match yourself with women whose lives, personalities, and other qualities resonate with your own. If you’re just looking for a casual encounter, the internet is chock full of dating sites that can match you with someone who has similar sexual goals.
A Few Last Words:
Meet People, Not Women
The more people you meet, the more women you’ll get connected to, so focus on expanding your overall social circle. The more women you get connected to, the wider your romantic network and the greater your chances are of meeting the woman you want.
Tweak Your Routine
If you keep going to the same places at the same times over and over again, you end up meeting all the same people. This is why your dating life is stagnant. Jumpstart your dating life by frequenting places outside your normal routine and change up the times you go to these places.
Go to a different coffee place, check out a gym or class outside your area, or even go to the Farmer’s Market in the next town. Doing this gives you the opportunity to diversify the kind and number of women you meet.
Don’t Confine Social Nights To Just Weekends
Many men mistakenly allocate a weekend to dating while spending their weekday free time watching TV. On the other hand, women often spend this time hosting social events, volunteering, attending functions, and the like. If you choose to spend your week shut off from socializing, then you’re missing out on a huge opportunity to meet the women you want.
So there you have it. Now you have a lot of ideas for where to meet women for both short and long-term relationships. The most important thing is to be honest with yourself about your dating goals.
After determining what type of relationship you want and the type of woman you want to have that relationship with, go to the places where she is most likely to hang out. From there, employ any number of effective attraction techniques and you’ll be well on your way to getting the woman of your dreams.