In a previous article, I talked about if you should text your ex you miss him. Today, I want to explore 5 types of text messages you should never send your ex boyfriend if you want him back.
➡ If you want to know what you CAN text him, all of these text messages are safe to send.
There’s nothing easy about breakups. It only gets harder when you realize you still have feelings for your ex boyfriend. You can’t stop thinking about him. You miss him. It drives you crazy thinking about him ending up with another girl.
All of those things combine to make you one hot mess. And it makes you crazy to text him because not hearing from him feels like torture.
If you want him back, pay close attention, because here are 5 texts you should never send your ex boyfriend if you want him back.
1. The Repeat Apology Text
The first text message that won’t help you get your ex boyfriend back is what I call the “repeat apology text”. In this text, you apologize over and over again for things that went wrong in the relationship.
The thought process is: if I just say I’m sorry enough, then he’ll take me back.
Unfortunately, it doesn’t work that way. If you know you did something wrong, it’s ok to apologize…ONCE. But then it’s time to move on.
The past is the past and one more “I’m sorry” won’t change that. Instead, it just makes you look very needy and extremely desperate.
How do you know if you’re sending a repeat apology text? It sounds something like this:
“I’m so, so, so sorry. I never should have treated you like that. Please, please forgive me. It won’t ever happen again.”
And that text is usually followed up a little later with another very similar sounding text.
2.) The I’ll Do Anything Text
Next on the list of text messages you should never send your ex boyfriend are the “I’ll do anything texts”.
You may find yourself resorting to this type of text when you’re desperately begging and pleading with your ex to take you back.
When you send these types of texts, the message your ex receives is that you are very insecure and extremely needy. Neither of those are attractive qualities.
An I’ll do anything text sounds like this:
“Please just tell me what you want me to do and I’ll do it. I’d do ANYTHING to get you back.”
3.) The I Can’t Live Without You Text
The next bad text is one I like to call the “I can’t live without you text”.
At this point, things are getting pretty desperate. Panic sets in and you feel like your ex might be slipping away for good.
So what do you do? You make a last ditch effort to spill your heart, hoping it will change his mind.
But it won’t change his mind. All it will do is confirm he made the right decision by leaving.
Here’s a good example:
“I need you in my life. I love you so so much, and it kills me to not be with you. I’ll die if we’re not together.”
4. The Has No Purpose Text
If you want to get your ex boyfriend back, avoid sending “nothing texts” or what I like to call “has no purpose texts”.
Relationship expert Michael Fiore highlights these texts inside his texting guide, Text Your Ex Back. I strongly recommend checking it out. I’ve used it and I have so many friends who have used it successfully, and it works like gangbusters to get your ex back. To make things easy, you can view all of Michael Fiore’s products and see which ones can help you at http://michaelfiore.org/.
Sending a has no purpose text won’t make you appear needy or desperate, but it won’t do you any favors either. The problem is it usually creates an awkward “where do we go from here” texting moment.
It doesn’t take the conversation anywhere. It doesn’t create curiosity or give your ex a positive reason to respond. Basically it does nothing – hence the name.
Usually you’ll find yourself sending your ex boyfriend these types of texts when you’re feeling lonely or missing him. You don’t really know what to say, but the urge to text him is so strong that you send him a one or two word text, hoping he’ll respond.
It usually sounds something like this:
“Hi” or “Hey” or “What’s up?”
In the end, all it will really do is annoy him, so don’t send your ex boyfriend a nothing text. When you’re trying to get your ex boyfriend back, every text you send should have a clear and distinct purpose.
5.) The Repeater Text
The repeater text happens when you send your ex boyfriend multiple messages wondering why he hasn’t responded to the first 2 (or 10) you’ve sent.
These types of texts will quickly annoy him and will kill an attraction he may still feel for you. They add unneeded pressure and make your ex feel cornered.
Repeater texts sound like this:
“Hello? Are you there? I’ve sent you like 3 messages. Did you get them? Why aren’t you responding?”
To avoid sending repeater texts, always follow this rule of thumb: never send your ex boyfriend more than two text messages in a row without getting a response.
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