How to talk to girls – a nightmare of a subject for so many men that goes a little something like this…
You’re out with friends. At a party, perhaps, or a fun social gathering of sorts. And you see her. THAT girl. The one who’s incredibly beautiful. The one who forces your stare even if you don’t mean to.
You’ve seen her before. This isn’t the first time you’ve locked eyes. You’ve always wanted to approach and start up a conversation, but you can’t fathom such a pretty face and gorgeous body rejecting you right in front of everybody. So you stay put. You say nothing.
If it does, don’t fret. You’re in good company. Most men struggle to learn how to talk to girls in a way that is meaningful, flirtatious, and sexually inviting.
Below are some tips and techniques on talking to girls that can help turn even the shyest guy into a vocal and eloquent conversationalist. You might also want to check out the “What to Say” video discussed in this review of the Girlfriend Activation System.
Reasons Why Some Men Have Trouble Talking To Women
If you want to learn how to talk to girls, the first step is understanding why it’s so hard in the first place. Here are two of the biggest reasons guys have difficulty talking to women.
* Past rejections or awkward situations.
According to Psychology Today, most men have never had a formal course on how to talk to women and, therefore, have limited skills in this area. Because many men never learn how to connect with women, some of their interactions end in embarrassment or painful rejection.
Those past failures are carried over to the present, and to avoid feeling the same pain all over again, many guys pull back and avoid engaging women in meaningful ways.
* Fear of not knowing what to say.
Many guys think if they approach a woman, they won’t have anything to say or the conversation will quickly turn into an eerie and uncomfortable “awkward silence”. When talking to girls, you can’t rely on a pre-written script beyond the first couple of words because conversation is much more fluid than that.
Instead of relying on “canned lines”, you need creativity and the ability to respond to whatever she might say to you. For some guys that’s truly frightening, but in reality talking to a woman is just about the most natural thing to do in the world, and guys put too much pressure on themselves to “say the right thing”.
How To Have Meaningful Interactions When Talking To Women
Now that we know some common reasons why men choose not to talk to women they are attracted to, let’s consider some ways to make conversation easier.
* Approach women without fear or preconceived notions.
Don’t put women on a pedestal. She may have the beauty of a goddess, but she’s still human just like you or I.
By removing the fear of rejection and just approaching the interaction in a fun and relaxed way, your true inner personality and confidence will shine through. That alone is half the battle.
* Forget about using pick-up lines.
When you use pick-up lines the right way, they can make a woman laugh or help break the ice. Unfortunately, most guys screw these up big time, and they aren’t necessary to make a great first impression.
Many women instinctively shy away from guys who use hackneyed old lines. Just introduce yourself and start a simple conversation. Don’t overthink things and make them way more complicated than they need to be.
* Use sincere compliments.
When you first talk to a woman, stay away from compliments about her body as that immediately raises red flags, gives her the “creeps”, and makes her think you just want to get in her pants. Pick out something specific about her clothes or her personality and be sincere. Doing so builds trust and the conversation will flow much smoother if she’s comfortable with you from the get-go.
* Show her your sense of humor.
Use humor when you talk to girls. Many different studies all come to the same conclusion: women love a man who can make them laugh.
You don’t have to be a comedian to show a sense of humor. Things like telling a woman a funny or embarrassing story can make her laugh and keep her engaged. They also help her see you as genuine.
* Be honest and upfront
When talking to a girl you like, don’t lie or pretend to be someone you’re not. Be honest about your intentions.
It seems like common sense, but a lot of guys try to raise their status with women by saying only what they think she wants to hear. That never serves a good purpose, and it doesn’t reveal your true value as a man.
Like everything, talking to women takes practice. No one teaches a “How To Talk To Girls 101” class in high school or college, so the best way to learn is to just get out there and do it! Trust me, once you do, you’ll find talking to girls is a lot more fun than it is scary!