When it comes to the art of seduction, women and men are polar opposites. Men are easily turned on while it takes much greater effort to get a woman sexually excited.
Huffington Post sums up this whole conundrum perfectly: women try to avoid being seen as slutty or too forward while men, dogged by the fear of rejection, try to dim their domineering or intimidating selves. If you are a man trying to ignite the sexual spark between you and a girl you like, the following tips will help.
When learning how to get a woman sexually excited, the importance of foreplay should not be overlooked. For men, it’s easy to get up and ready for sex just by looking at an attractive woman. The problem is, most men make the mistake of hurrying foreplay, assuming their woman is ready for sex just because they are.
Generally speaking, the core of foreplay should start as far away from the genitals as possible. Some erotic gestures you can try include cupping her face, rubbing and/or kissing her neck and shoulders, and staring into her eyes. Try to move slowly from her sexually neutral areas to more erogenous zones, instead of jumping straight into penetration.
2. Create The Right Ambiance
Women are much more sensitive than men to distractions such as loud music, bright lights, or even dirty bed sheets. At the basic level, creating sexual ambiance involves simple things like turning off the TV, changing the dirty bed sheets, and carefully choosing the music variety and volume on your home theater.
You could go further by lighting scented candles, playing love songs, or serving her favorite drink. Such efforts may seem desperate to some men, but these stimuli, both consciously and subconsciously, communicate to a woman that you care and make it much easier for her to get sexually excited around you.
3. Use Verbal Cues
While it’s true body language is one of the most significant and powerful aspects of seduction, what you say also goes a long way in communicating your interest and getting her to think about sex.
Stay away from topics that are too serious or boring and try to talk about things that get her aroused. If your interest in a woman is purely sexual, then you should try to stick to flirting while avoiding being too misogynistic.
Subtle bragging is a great way to get a woman to fall for you. The basic technique involves briefly mentioning your best attributes without dwelling on them too long. Just don’t belittle her own achievements in the process.
4. Explore Her Fantasies
Like men, women have sexual fantasies. Lots of them.
Instead of getting worked up over her fantasizing about Brad Pitt, use it to your advantage. Encourage her to open up about her fantasies, and try to fulfill them for her. Role playing is one of the best ways to get a woman sexually excited, especially if you’ve been with her for a while and sex has gone stale.
5. Improve Your Kissing Technique
For many women, kissing is a huge turn on, and it’s a great way to get her sexually excited…if you do it right. Bad kissing, on the other hand, is a huge turn-off.
It is no secret that women love kissing. When a girl lets you kiss her, it does not mean you are home and dry. Too often, men trip up at this hurdle because they go about kissing the wrong way.
The secret to a great kiss is to set the stage patiently and get deeper as you go along. Start out by simply brushing your lips against hers and then introduce your tongue by gently touching the tip against her lips. Avoid drooling or sucking too heavily, especially if it’s a first kiss.
Bad breath is a big turnoff. If you suspect your breath stinks, brush your teeth regularly or chew on mint or lemon peel gum to chase away the smell. Keeping your eyes open and looking straight into hers during the kiss can also deepen the connection and get her even more sexually excited.
6. Use Body Language To Build Sexual Tension
According to Psychology Today, body language is the most powerful tool when it comes to seduction, particularly for men. When seducing women, you need to communicate interest, confidence, and dominance. Even if you don’t feel particularly attractive, your body language can convince women you’re the hottest man on earth.